Talking to a Wall

Lately I have been surrounded by people who in epilogues of daily parlance feature as “brick walls”. Yes, the analogy is right and doesn’t correlate to walls in respect of their toughness. Rather, this is meant to connote those with have fixated opinions, with clogged minds and are obstinate enough so as to completely disregard opinions of others.

Here is another example elucidate this concept further. When you shoot a bullet, or throw something at a wall, the tendency of the bullet or object to ricochet exists. But, the direction of the same isn’t something that might be  contemplated, for the bullet might just lodge itself into the wall or bounce back in any direction depending on the texture and evenness of the wall. Similarly, “wally” people have the ability to digest few things or hit back without much reverence. There is no pattern. Similar in this regard is when you go on top of a mountain and shout out loud into the valley. The echo might fascinate you, but the idea of the example is to showcase how receptive “wall-kind” people are. If you shout out a sentence into the valley, you will surely here yourself. But you might just notice, that the entire sentence isn’t the part being recited, rather just the last part . The gist of the matter is lost to the surrounding and only what is hailed last stands out. Similarly, “wally” people are receptive to very less, and are generous in giving back answers. They place keywords of a conversation, differently and give back answers without much ado.There doesn’t really remain much field to draw in reason but only a wordplay of jargon being shot at to establish a jovial juvenile false sense of superiority.
Talking about “walls” and not mentioning Facebook walls would be an anathema in the new social scenario. But having a wall to showcase your being and being a wall are two mutually exclusive things. One might obviously resort to posting ‘ I Don’t give a F**k about you” pics on their wall, but displaying that blatant disregard is a different ball game altogether. On FB, you use the medium of communication for dissemination of such opinions, knowing the effectiveness is limited and it’s merely a statement than an action. When it comes to being a wall, the foreground is set by rigidness and a premeditated notion of self-superiority and self-righteousness. It’s only appalling to think of such people, for when you become a wall, or start placing your ego before knowledge, you dig you grave right there, right then.
“Rather crumble away in glory, than be painted upon by such hegemony and prejudice. Lose your ego, not yourself”

A Thought of Fiction

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I am a player of randomness, and it is my domain. To be beyond it is an idea so appalling, for randomness is not chaos, it’s just an idea of free will. So, swerving into randomness, I had an idea of utter brilliance with a streak of absurdity. What if, the words we speak were not an element of our conscious mind, but that of our subconscious. So to speak, our speech were the manifestation of our free mind and free will, rather than thoughts subjugated to societal hegemony and crass disposition of those around us. Would that make the world a better place to live in or not?

Just to make this clear, the subconscious isn’t just grey matter with only perception but no initiation. The subconscious is the background of the scenery that you paint through the course of your life. So basically the girl in the picture isn’t the most outstanding feature of the painting, it maybe the scenery in itself, hence is said, see the bigger picture in life :p. Nobody would like Julie Andrews dancing to the track of “The Sound of Music” in the backdrop of Gothic metal heads.So, the background does matter and in a way influences the center piece. What we see isn’t what we believe in, it is always what we are told to believe in, is where we vest our trust. Had we actually believed in what we saw, the subconscious and conscious wouldn’t be two tiers of thoughts, but reflections of each other, with one being just a little more refine than the other.

What we are subconsciously is very sublime and innate to the idea of our being. But what we put forth consciously maybe just the way we want to be. In college, we choose to hang around with a set of people, who supposedly are very cool, whereas deep down we want to be amongst those geeks at the book club. We persist in our efforts of making to the football team, something that we suck at, but don’t step into the auditions for the lead to that play we always loved. In such situations, if ever there was a possibility where you could just speak out whatever you wished too, life would certainly become less complicated.

Complexity in life is like the basement of a dungy house and you are the spider in it. Either you roll around weaving a constant thread and walk away from the hell hole or sit cooped up, weaving constant webs around in the same place till you yourself get tangled in them and die a miserable death.

Here is another thought on subconscious mind. Have you seen the movie Lucy or Limitless? If you have, who would you weigh in as the champion of situations, the conscious or the subconscious. Well, subconscious in indeed limitless, but to be fair to consciousness, it does channelize the subconscious thoughts, but not in a way so as to distort them.

Will subconscious eradicate the element of pretentiousness? Well, it just might. But then, it again depends. Those who are habitual liars and pretenders, believe inherently that what they are doing is the best for them. So, the subconscious mind, which is the reflection ,has been indoctrinated into believing just that. The eyes and the ears, see and hear things differently and thus, the subconscious has a different story to tell.

Everything is after all just a story, just an idea. Few grasp onto real life, rest fade into our subconscious and die forever.

Being Oblivious

Oblivion of the desires and pursuits of mortal existence is a dream which noble souls seek. It never comes down to an oddity of weak choosing oblivion over enrichment for they aren’t prepared to deal with the reality. The truth is, ignoring what may seem harsh, but at the same time existentially irrelevant is a pursuit of the strong and intelligent. It showcases your ability to prioritize without any undue misery attached to any decision you make. When you walk up on a stage to be heard for what you really stand for, it’s always good to be oblivious to the voices of dissent in some corner on the room. You should always know, you are up there to be heard,not to please.

In a world full of diversity, not in sense of race, gender or creed, it’s the attitude which distinguishes people. Being oblivious to others is an option which is misinterpreted and deeply abhorred in general. The idea isn’t about ignoring those around you, it is just that there should never be a moment in life, wherein you let go of yourself to be someone you aren’t, just because those voices of dissent caught up with you. The agenda is and should be to do as you please, not in a selfish way, but in a manner so as to be able to preserve your identity.

So can I actually slate out a criteria to get the oblivion act right?                                                   No

I just know one thing for sure, to be able to please everyone and anyone who may or may not matter is a thing of God. We are mortal and a little disdain or hatred will not kill anyone as much as a life full of frustration at the sight of disbelief and extreme insecurity about our own skin.

Love the process, not the result

I recently read an article by the acclaimed author Mark Manson on pursuing goals in life. There was a particular line which can be merrily taken to be the gist on the article there, which was ” love the process, not the result”.

There is no ambiguity to this statement, so you don’t have to rake your heads to figure out what it means. It basically means that loving the process of what your are trying to achieve is more important than focusing on the end result. But how is this point of so much relevance and why you should adore and embrace this concept? Well, all of us have certain goals in life. Even if you proclaim you are too chilled out in life to have any, you still have one. It may short term like ,to get your hands on the latest edition of a magazine, or it maybe long term heavyweight goal regarding your retirement plans of spending your last days in a vineyard in Italy ;It maybe some career oriented goal, or it maybe some spiritual one; we all do have goals. In order to truly live our life, we should love the way we head towards our aim , rather than achieving the aim in itself. The significance of climbing onto the Mt Everest isn’t in the fact that you set foot on the peak, but is in the fact that you ‘climbed’ your way to the peak of the highest mountain on the planet, which very few people have been able to do.

Amidst the ongoing FIFA World Cup, don’t you have an adrenaline rush when you watch the person score, and take a victory lap on the sides. Even if you aren’t much of a footballer, you might still be tempted to live that moment of glory, where you are heralded as the messiah of the moment, a person who commands immense respect and power. Sometimes, such feelings build up to fantasies, which are so strong that they lead to a strong vigor of raw passion, that pushes you to do something big. It is only when you invest time building towards that moment that you realise that you lack real interest towards it. You were only interest in the result, the moment. If all that is taken out, you are just an empty soul with no strong will to give what it takes. Sometimes, such realizations discourage people to an extent that they become morose being with a lost purpose; we start blaming ourselves for our failures. But the truth is, these goals weren’t our goals in the first place. We loved the moment, not the skills of achieving it. This also doesn’t  mean that we shall not achieve the same moment of glory should we invest our potential towards what we actually like. It isn’t too complicated a notion, it just requires you to invest so as to reap as and when the time comes.

“Follow all and death shall strike, seek what is truly yours, and the Lords above shall bow to your strengths”

Judge and be Judged

“Those who fear being judged, secretly judge others.”

If i were to ask you to count on your finger tips the number of occasions in the past year where you couldn’t gather yourself to something, out of fear of being laughed or mocked at, trust me, you would run out of fingers. The implication of this statement isn’t aimed at the notion of self-confidence, but rather sways into the judgmental territory.

Many of us have always feared the unknown possibilities, opportunity and chances, not because they seem difficult, but because we feared the people we might come across and how they would perceive our presence. Thus, we chose to bow out of such commitments which entail any bold steps towards our  dreams. We let go, and worst is that , we don’t regret it. We just try to console ourselves by convincing ourselves that the foregone endeavors were something that our destiny didn’t bequeath to us. We settle in our mediocrity not because we lack talent, not because we aren’t smart enough ; we settle out because we our cursed in our passiveness at confronting people to take what is rightfully ours, and this is no sacrifice, its sheer stupidity. So stop such foolishness and do the inevitable.

Do we really matter

In this modern competitive world with billions of people, do you think we matter? Well, I am not talking in physics term but in emotional terms. You might have come across this thought now and then, when you feel undergo a misfortune, and let the unhappiness spill over in your life. Then to escape your misery, you go ranting about the tough times you have had, not with an idea of seeking solace from those close to you, but  just to reinforce the idea that your existence means something to someone. When people acknowledge you, you get a warm feeling which though is ephemeral in nature, fills you up with warmth and you feel as if you have achieved something. Your biggest mistake is that you start taking this as a measure of your life. It is the easiest way to becoming even more miserable.

Like I said, amidst the 7 billion people on this planet, do you think your really matter. Well, why think of it negatively. Over a period of time I have come to realise that this is the best thing that can happen to you. If you don’t matter, you tend to be the forgotten face in the crowd. Your constant inhibitions about being judged dry out since there is no one to care for. Such moment in life are when you grow the most. It is in those moments of loneliness when we introspect and realise the true worth of our lives.

What people think about you, is none of your business

Life is a constant process. It is a big package of emotional and physical endurance tests, and its upto us if we want to jump across those hurdles and reach the end of the finish line with a triumphant smile, or do we want to be the injured guy who limps his was through the sidelines, and finishes the race for the sake of it.

Life is essentially too short to think about others’ opinions about you. Sometimes its easier to ease down and do what you like. It will fill you up with satisfaction , and leave no room for regret. Don’t let you insecurities about yourself come in the way of your success. These moral ideas aren’t too difficult to uphold if you give it a try. All it requires is sincere attempt, and you will be surprised by how amazing it feels towards the end.

 

Life on post its or mind full of ideas

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The hymns of the city rhythm catches most of us. Right from getting up late to hurrying up to catch the metro early, leaving behind a messy wardrobe that will bear a reflection of your haste when you come back, we all just can’t get enough of it. This life is like a moribund monotonous charade of significance, where we are doing exactly opposite of what we should be doing. We are always running around to meet deadlines, skipping meals, avoiding friends and family in the pretext of deadlines again, we miss out on great things. We lead miserable lives, but this feeling doesn’t strike us just then. It strikes us when the façade of such success eludes  us. Living like rats who feed on the little we get, building up false images of what we could get, all this is truly justified , for all we do is just think, and never act. It serves us right when we paint wonderful pictures of a future and sit, while the whole world around us turns upside down. Its the feeling of woeful sorrow that diminishes us as being, mostly not because we feel we couldn’t get what we imagined, but because the frustration of never having tried engulfs our soul.

If you are a guy of post its, who seeks happiness in things which bear little relevance to what your life really stands for, you might see yourself in the group of majority, but in the race to enlightenment and fulfilment, your majority is proves to be a sad excuse for a life. Don’t follow misguided paths for sheep may get herded anywhere, be a wise man and do things as you like. I don’t mean for you to go to your Boss next thing tomorrow, and tell him that you have found your calling and leave the job. I just wish for you to do things your way, but do things nevertheless. Don’t strive to be unique, let uniqueness be you. Be the guy who believes and thinks independently, a guy who wields the roses by their thorns and raises them to the triumphant sky for he did what he liked.